Tension Test

This test is a good start to begin touching and massaging her. The trick is to do a skillful “cold read.”

Okay, I’m giving you a tension test.

Place her palms on your shoulders.

Put your hands on the small of her back and massage in small circles.

Massage her back with your hands from the bottom upwards until you reach her shoulders, then massage those.

Then, with strength, even pressure, move your fingers back down her back, feeling the tension in her muscles. Tell her that you’ve “discovered” a lot of suppressed emotions, that she’s a person with lots of hidden feelings—and keep going.