Shadow and the Rising Sun

Best used with women who are sexually uptight or haven't had sex for a long time. As always, you don’t need to memorize every word. The main thing is to convey the key points. Here, she can let go of her sexual inhibitions. You’re helping her give herself permission for passion, because it’s not her who has those forbidden desires—it’s her “shadow.”

You know, I was thinking about something recently... About opposites. About Yin and Yang. About hot and cold, black and white, and how opposites are really the same thing, just different degrees of the same spectrum of possibilities, and how one defines the other. There’s nothing absolute.

And then I remembered something my friend, who’s a psychologist, told me. She said, “I need to feed my Shadow.” Back then, I didn’t understand what she meant until I read Jung. He said everyone has their own Shadow. The dark side—the place of forbidden desires. This is the part of you that you hide from the rest of the world. Maybe even from yourself, where you can imagine things; things that no one should ever know about. Where you can experience all these moments of delight, allow all these things to happen. Because it brings a sense of balance.

This sense of balance is really important, because there’s a theory that everything you suppress and bottle up grows inside you, breaks through, and starts appearing in other areas of your life. If your shadow is suppressed, it grows and grows until it completely takes over you. Jung said it’s like the rising sun, because in the morning the sun shines in the sky, rises higher and higher, closer and closer to noon, and when it’s noon, it changes its movement in the opposite direction. And everything that was true before now changes, and now it’s the opposite that becomes right. And the sun goes down. That’s, for example, the theory about the midlife crisis.

The more you try to deny your shadow, the more intense it becomes. And the stronger your shadow gets, the more you feel the underlying tension inside, until one day it breaks free.

That’s why balance is such a great thing.

Try stepping into your shadow right now, and look at the world through your shadow’s eyes. What does your shadow say about you? What does your shadow want most right now? What do you most want to rightfully enjoy in the world?