This World Wasn't Invented by Me

It’s important to share your life philosophy at the comfort stage. It lets her look into you, to see you have a clear, well-considered stance on life. This suggests you’re a self-confident person with an interesting life, not a passive, indifferent vegetable.

This routine is a great example of how to share your life philosophy. There’s tons of implied information here: that you’re spiritually developed, that you have ambitious goals, that you’re one of the alpha males, that you’re attractive, that you date models, that you’re a great lover and attentive after sex, that you have lots of experience with beautiful women, etc.

You’re also putting her in a context where she’s sexually open, which is great. Obviously, you’ll want to tweak this routine so it suits your personality, life, and experience more.

The world isn’t fair. It never was, and it’s not supposed to be. You and I have more chances in life than a starving orphan living in poverty.

I try to grow spiritually and learn from everything I do. I remember, in university, more than anything I wanted to read the Bible from cover to cover. I never got around to finishing; slowly reading the Old Testament, I started losing my mind from the prophets’ messages, but what stuck with me was the Book of Job. There’s a story about how Satan made a bet with God about Job. Like, would Job renounce God when Satan started doing truly nasty things to him on purpose.

It’s a really interesting story; I could barely imagine good and evil chilling together, drinking and arguing like me and my friends before a football match, but it matters. It’s one of civilization’s earliest attempts to wrestle with why bad things happen to good people. But you can’t go through life complaining about your luck, assuming that God and the Devil are betting on you.

I believe you have to see life as it is and accept the world as it is. You don’t get to pretend the world isn’t the way it is just because you don’t want it to be, no matter how much justice or logic you have on your side.

The same goes for me; I know some things aren’t fair, because a lot of people find me interesting and good-looking, and I get advantages others don’t. That really isn’t fair, but just because it isn’t fair doesn’t mean it isn’t true. I didn’t invent this world, I just live in it.

I have this cool friend Katya, she’s amazing. She’s one of my best friends, we’ve been seeing each other for a long time, but she has all these hang-ups about sex, and it’s honestly terrible. She works as a model in fashion shows, and the idea that she has to be unattainably perfect is drilled so deep into her, just because society wants to see her that way. So she always feels guilt after sex, and it only gets worse the more pleasure she experiences.

I remember, the first time in her life she had an orgasm with a man, and afterwards we were lying on each other and she couldn’t stop crying, we even kissed through her tears. She couldn’t let the idea in that she was just herself, a normal, sexual woman. You see this a lot with extremely beautiful women—not always, but quite often...

I like talking to you because you don’t seem like that. You’re just yourself, and I’m sure you have insecurities like everyone, but you’re much more in harmony with your humanity.

If this causes an awkward pause, lighten the mood a bit, say:

That’s terrible, you silly girl