Truth or Dare Game

This routine is often used as the beginning of the Comfort phase, right after the A3 qualification. It brilliantly establishes a sense of special connection and allows you to exchange personal information about each other.

The term “Game” here isn’t exactly accurate—just use the opportunity to tell stories, keep the conversation flowing, and let both you and her build comfort and closeness. Explore some of her answers in more depth. When the topic runs dry, you can always return to the game by saying:

Okay, who's next?

Let’s begin:

I have a really cool way to get to know new people better. Truth game. But you have to play fair. You have to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Boring questions and boring answers are not allowed.

Skeletons in the closet type stuff—let’s get it all out. Oh, and we can’t ask each other the same questions, so if someone’s already asked it, the other person has to ask anything except what’s already been asked. Cool?

Ask personal questions. Don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to refuse to answer questions that you feel are not interesting enough. It’s actually a good idea to introduce a sexual context into the game, but watch out for her cues. If you ask a sexual question and her next one isn’t sexual, ease up a bit on sexuality.

Here are some examples:

• Tell me your secret
• If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
• When was the last time you felt jealous?

Sexual questions:

• Where have you had the craziest sex?
• Are you loud during sex?
• What's your favorite place to be touched?
• What’s your favorite sexual position?